Irish Wedding News
26/09/2013
The in-depth study, which was commissioned by family law specialists Slater & Gordon, looked at the dynamics of modern married life.
It found that a year of post-wedding exhilaration is followed by a year of getting to know each other - but the third year marks the point when couples begin to settle into a comfortable co-existence, having come to terms with each other's imperfections. It is also around this time that plans to start a family begin, further cementing the relationship.
By the third wedding anniversary, both parties are found to be content with the financial implications of tying the knot and sharing bills and expenses, while enjoying the luxury of two salaries also makes it an enjoyable time, along with the fact that renovations or improvements to the marital home are likely to be close to completion.
However, it was discovered that the fifth year of marriage is the hardest to overcome due to various factors including tiredness or even exhaustion amid increasing workloads - and children.
The study also found familiarity with each other, regular bickers over the sharing of chores and the stress caused by financial worries also take their toll, while bringing a child into the marriage around this point can also put strain on the relationship.
The report also found seven years to be 'the wall', which if scaled successfully paves the way for a long, happy and lasting liaison for matrimony.
Elsewhere in the study, researchers examined the emotional and physical toll of trying to make a marriage work. One in 10 participants admitted "they didn't realise how hard it would be", while others said they suffered an emotional "comedown" following the high of their wedding.
One third feel there isn't enough affection in their marriage, and a further one in five say there are days when they regret the decision to get hitched completely. Unbalanced sex drives, different hobbies or social preferences were found to provide stumbling blocks after the first few years.
Of the 2,000 people polled, half said their wedding day was the happiest of their life, while the first year was ranked just behind the third for general happiness. Factors for this were that couples were "basking in the newlywed glow", as well as unbridled optimism about a new life together.
This optimism soon faded for many though amid the realisation of the determination it requires to make the marriage work - one third feel the love in their marriage has reduced since the big day.
One in 10 said they loved their partner less than they did the day they married, with around one in five claiming their marriage had not worked out the way they would have liked. A further four in 10 said they could "do more" to make their marriage work.
Amanda McAlister, a family lawyer at Slater & Gordon said: "It's not very often we see clients in those first few years of marriage but by the five year mark or a couple of years after they have children we often have married couples asking us for advice.
"The buzz of the first few years where everything is new is hard to maintain and often people find that married life hasn't lived up to their expectations.
"We encourage anyone having doubts at this point in their marriage to really think about whether it's a crisis that can't be overcome.
"Often those clients will just be having a hard time and six months later their marriage will have completely turned a corner."
(JP/CD)
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Third Year Of Marriage Is The Happiest
The third year of marriage is the happiest one, according to new research.The in-depth study, which was commissioned by family law specialists Slater & Gordon, looked at the dynamics of modern married life.
It found that a year of post-wedding exhilaration is followed by a year of getting to know each other - but the third year marks the point when couples begin to settle into a comfortable co-existence, having come to terms with each other's imperfections. It is also around this time that plans to start a family begin, further cementing the relationship.
By the third wedding anniversary, both parties are found to be content with the financial implications of tying the knot and sharing bills and expenses, while enjoying the luxury of two salaries also makes it an enjoyable time, along with the fact that renovations or improvements to the marital home are likely to be close to completion.
However, it was discovered that the fifth year of marriage is the hardest to overcome due to various factors including tiredness or even exhaustion amid increasing workloads - and children.
The study also found familiarity with each other, regular bickers over the sharing of chores and the stress caused by financial worries also take their toll, while bringing a child into the marriage around this point can also put strain on the relationship.
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The report also found seven years to be 'the wall', which if scaled successfully paves the way for a long, happy and lasting liaison for matrimony.
Elsewhere in the study, researchers examined the emotional and physical toll of trying to make a marriage work. One in 10 participants admitted "they didn't realise how hard it would be", while others said they suffered an emotional "comedown" following the high of their wedding.
One third feel there isn't enough affection in their marriage, and a further one in five say there are days when they regret the decision to get hitched completely. Unbalanced sex drives, different hobbies or social preferences were found to provide stumbling blocks after the first few years.
Of the 2,000 people polled, half said their wedding day was the happiest of their life, while the first year was ranked just behind the third for general happiness. Factors for this were that couples were "basking in the newlywed glow", as well as unbridled optimism about a new life together.
This optimism soon faded for many though amid the realisation of the determination it requires to make the marriage work - one third feel the love in their marriage has reduced since the big day.
One in 10 said they loved their partner less than they did the day they married, with around one in five claiming their marriage had not worked out the way they would have liked. A further four in 10 said they could "do more" to make their marriage work.
Amanda McAlister, a family lawyer at Slater & Gordon said: "It's not very often we see clients in those first few years of marriage but by the five year mark or a couple of years after they have children we often have married couples asking us for advice.
"The buzz of the first few years where everything is new is hard to maintain and often people find that married life hasn't lived up to their expectations.
"We encourage anyone having doubts at this point in their marriage to really think about whether it's a crisis that can't be overcome.
"Often those clients will just be having a hard time and six months later their marriage will have completely turned a corner."
(JP/CD)
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