Irish Wedding News
13/11/2014
A new study has revealed two-thirds of divorcees credit their mother as the person who helped them decide to end their marriage.
According to the research, by family law specialists Slater & Gordon, 63% of respondents admitted their families can an influence on their decision to end their marriage, but it was mothers – on both sides of the family – who had the largest influence.
For one in 10, they said it was their brother or sister who encouraged them to end their marriage, while 6% said they made the decision after taking their children's feelings into consideration.
Elsewhere, the study found that the most common ways families influence their loved ones to consider ending their marriage is to highlight their partner's differences – and criticise them. Around two-thirds (67%) however, said they were glad of their family's opinions as it helped them to see that their marriage was not working. In turn, this helped them decide to end the relationship.
While a majority said their partner's family had as much influence on the relationship as their own family, 44% of respondents admitted they never got on with their ex's relatives, while 74% criticised their partner because they tended to listen to their family more than them.
An additional quarter confessed that their in-laws just chose to "completely" ignore them.
For those who ended their marriage, three in 10 had been unhappy for a while, and 38% honestly said – with hindsight – that they and their former spouse had been poorly suited, but they didn't see it at the time.
Amanda McAlister, a divorce lawyer at Slater & Gordon, commented: "Families tend to be bigger than ever before and are increasingly made up of children and relatives from previous relationships and as a result there is often more risk of tensions and interference from families on both sides.
"Often family members aren't interfering to cause problems but because they can see that a relationship isn't working and because they are trying to help their loved one face up to their relationship issues.
"We find that clients have often felt pressure from their family to end a relationship or felt isolated by their family because of their choice of partner or even felt ignored by the new family they have married in to."
She continued: "Early on in a relationship it is easier to ignore the opinions of those close to you but as time goes by this shows that couples who are finding marriage tough can often realise that mum was right about the problems in the relationship after all.
"At the end of the day your family do tend to know you better than anyone else and normally take an instant dislike to someone that they think isn't right for you."
(JP/CD)
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Mums 'Can Influence Divorcing Couples'
A new study has revealed two-thirds of divorcees credit their mother as the person who helped them decide to end their marriage.
According to the research, by family law specialists Slater & Gordon, 63% of respondents admitted their families can an influence on their decision to end their marriage, but it was mothers – on both sides of the family – who had the largest influence.
For one in 10, they said it was their brother or sister who encouraged them to end their marriage, while 6% said they made the decision after taking their children's feelings into consideration.
Elsewhere, the study found that the most common ways families influence their loved ones to consider ending their marriage is to highlight their partner's differences – and criticise them. Around two-thirds (67%) however, said they were glad of their family's opinions as it helped them to see that their marriage was not working. In turn, this helped them decide to end the relationship.
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While a majority said their partner's family had as much influence on the relationship as their own family, 44% of respondents admitted they never got on with their ex's relatives, while 74% criticised their partner because they tended to listen to their family more than them.
An additional quarter confessed that their in-laws just chose to "completely" ignore them.
For those who ended their marriage, three in 10 had been unhappy for a while, and 38% honestly said – with hindsight – that they and their former spouse had been poorly suited, but they didn't see it at the time.
Amanda McAlister, a divorce lawyer at Slater & Gordon, commented: "Families tend to be bigger than ever before and are increasingly made up of children and relatives from previous relationships and as a result there is often more risk of tensions and interference from families on both sides.
"Often family members aren't interfering to cause problems but because they can see that a relationship isn't working and because they are trying to help their loved one face up to their relationship issues.
"We find that clients have often felt pressure from their family to end a relationship or felt isolated by their family because of their choice of partner or even felt ignored by the new family they have married in to."
She continued: "Early on in a relationship it is easier to ignore the opinions of those close to you but as time goes by this shows that couples who are finding marriage tough can often realise that mum was right about the problems in the relationship after all.
"At the end of the day your family do tend to know you better than anyone else and normally take an instant dislike to someone that they think isn't right for you."
(JP/CD)
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